I read an article in this months Cosmo and it really got me thinking. Yes. Cosmo articles and thinking do apparently go together.
The article in question is about when its ok to do things in a new relationship. Well, since I've NEVER been in a decent relationship I devoured that article. Most of it was common sense, when to have the first kiss, when to have sex for the first time, when to say the L word. There was something there that jumped out at me and beat me across the back of the skull.
Apparently its common for adults to do 'sleepovers' somewhere between date #1 and the date when you have sex (which is usually #3).
Is this for real? I have never even heard of this. Am I some kind of retard? Don't answer that. Do people honestly do this? To show that you're capable of non-sexual intimacy? Don't you want to get the awkward and fun bit over with? I have intimacy issues, and sometimes I need to be something to induce cuddling. Don't get me wrong. Once I'm comfortable I'm damn affectionate. But I'm not always that comfortable until after we've played hide the sausage. Or suck the sausage.
That whole concept seems kinda weird to me. Australia is currently in a drought. Does God tease us with fog when we need rain? No! Just give us the damn rain. We'll deal with the repercussions afterwards.
I haven't had sex in 8 months. So by the time I do get around to this again (about another 8 months), are you telling me that I have to be intimate with a guy without having sex? Can I do it myself? In the very least I want it in the morning, before I go to work. That way I'll be sure to have a smile on my face.
What say you?