Its amazing how people perceive sex. Especially the way they perceive satisfying sex.
Men need an orgasm. Full stop. Roll over and go to sleep. Well, maybe they need a little more. But to be truly satisfied, they HAVE to have the grand conclusion.
Women need soo much more. We need contact, and foreplay. We need someone we connect with, even on the most base level. We need someone who we feel will support us, or give us the illusion of support. We need to know that we are safe to go to sleep tonight in your arms. We need lots of contact and a few deep, passionate kisses throughout. We need you to be unafraid of the perceptions of our own bodies. What we think is ugly, what we try to hide, we need you to touch and taste these, to tell us that we, in ourselves, are ok.
Orgasm isn't the goal. Don't get me wrong. Its good. Its better than good. Its earth shattering and toe curling. But its not the goal. Orgasm is the metaphorial cherry on top. Pun fully intended. And a big fucking cherry it is too. I was going to type a big BLOODY cherry, but that would just be wrong.
With all this in mind, its amazing women are satisfied after sex at all! Guys don't always understand it. If they don't get you there, then its a terrible experience. They might still be satisfied, but they'll have a nagging feeling about it. If they even notice it, that is.